For The Wives

As backward as it sounds, my busy life is what has inspired this posting. If you are a wife, or ever plan on being one, please read on and make a mental post it note :) First let me just say that life has always been busy for me. And now that I am a full time wife, mother, pastors wife, childrens pastor, business owner, daughter, sister, aunt and friend................I am busier than ever. We all are. The demands of each of our lives take a toll on our marriages, our schedules and our families. Today as I write I am thankful of what I have been taught over the years, about life and priorities. I want to share one of those secrets with you. It's something I have know, but that the Lord has poured out fresh in my spirit in the midst of my busyness lately. Ladies, take care of you husbands. No matter how busy I am, I always make sure to include time for those little things that I know Chris likes. Although your husband is a grown man (well, most of them anyway) and he is the provider, he is really a 7 year old inside who wants to be taken care of. Too often we are too tired, or selfish to go out of our way to do something we know he appreciates. When it's for the kids, or ladies book club or our other social agendas, we find the time and fake the energy. But we know our husbands love us unconditionally and they often get the short end. The results you will see when you respect your husband unconditionally and start to do romantic little things for him like you did when you were dating.....you will be amazed. He needs and deserves to be taken care of. Like it or not, your marriage should come before your children. And you have the power to take the first steps to make it that way. Everyone has their long strungout opinion of the John and Kate Plus 8 drama. But in their own words they have said that everything they do is for their kids. Ladies, love your husbands. Even though you're exhausted, go out of your way to let him know he is loved and well taken care of.
And here is what I want you to take away from reading this.............Life gets crazy and sometimes we need a break, we need help. And that is ok. However----if another female is helping take care of your kids, its called baby-sitting. But if another female is helping take care of your husband, its called adultery!
I am thankful that I know what I know at my age and have had the opportunity for women and God to pour these truths into me. I am so thankful for the awesome marriage I have with my husband. He is my soulmate and best friend!